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    Dear Kkasxo:

    You are welcome. There is something in the post you submitted on the other thread that I want to point out to you:

    “I don’t believe anything good will come my way. In all honesty, I truly do believe that my life prior… was the best of the best, and if that couldn’t last then really what hope in life do I have?!… I was about 3 months or so into this whole ordeal, well look at me 8/9 months later and still in the same rabbit hole if not deeper… will be here to listen to the same story over and over and over again if need to because I too am living and ‘replaying’ each day”-

    – your attitude is your biggest obstacle. It is as if you see value in “listening to the same story over and over and over again” and “replaying’ each day” yourself.

    It is as if you are being a good friend when you encourage another to tell the same story over and over and over again, learning nothing.

    As if you see merit in a life of the same old, same old story being replayed every day, for the rest of one’s days. I lived decades stuck in the same old, same old story. I wish I didn’t waste my life that way.

    There is a saying, “Misery likes company”. Lots of people find comfort in that company, being miserable themselves and surrounding themselves with others who are miserable, learning nothing.

    You are in your mid twenties. I hope you don’t waste your life “in the same rabbit hole”- no benefit in that other than that peculiar emotional comfort in misery.





    • This reply was modified 12 months ago by  anita.


    Dear Kkasxo:

    You referred yesterday (Dec 5, 2019) to the event or events of summer 2018, which constitute the Trauma in your diagnosed PTSD as “the most hurtful, soul destroying and traumatic time of my life”. You wrote that your “flashbacks happen a lot.. it all brings the immense pain of it all back every single time”, that you are “so full of pain and destruction”, that you will never get over your trauma, (“I honestly am too aware of the fact that I will never ever get over my trauma. It’s so crystal clear”), that it is “like a life sentence”, that “it always comes back. always”, and it takes away your will to live.

    Having read that, I thought that maybe I can bring something to light that will be helpful:

    November 2018, you wrote about your boyfriend: “he caused it”, it being the Trauma of summer 2018. “he caused it and knew full well what he was doing while it was happening.. He has betrayed me, in a way that was impossible”.

    You were in contact with him at the time, Nov 2018, and you wrote regarding what how your contact with him was affecting you: “he is hindering my progress… when we are together now all the feelings of hurt and betrayal arise again, there is an awful lot of resentment and anger towards him and his family for allowing this event t happen in the first place. for breaking me this way”.

    My input today: you are currently living with the man you who you state has caused the Trauma in your diagnosed and ongoing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. How can this possibly be healthy for a victim of PTSD to voluntarily live with the source of the Trauma?

    I mean, how is it possible that neither one of your family members who are aware of your diagnosis and the source of your Trauma, as well as the professionals who diagnosed you and provided you with therapy on the matter, how is it possible that they are okay with you living with the source of your Trauma. It is mind boggling.

    If the issue was a breakup and a reconcilation, than it’s one thing, and you are simply back with your boyfriend. But if he is the source of your trauma, and you were diagnosed with PTSD based on the trauma that he inflicted on you, then it is no longer an issue of a breakup and a reconciliation, it is an issue of mental health:

    a victim of PTSD is not supposed to be in contact with, let alone be living with, in an intimate relationship with the source of their diagnosed and active PTSD.




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