my brother is very rude to people , most of the time he gets into arguments with my parents, but my parents are very loving and kind, they have never brought us up in the manner my brother acts in.
he has no consideration about my parents feelings, although he has a good knowledge on buddhism, when it comes to dealing with things he is very mean and ungrateful., he speaks of wisdom but practically he is no good
my father loves him very much, helps out my brother financially and supports his cause. yet once my brother gets what he wants he will treat them like trash.
my brother never seem to find good friends with values, he is just attracted to these people who are rich, arrogant ,narcissistic and manipulative, who pretend to be on his side just for the benefits.
He has been used by his so called friends and he never accepted it., even his wife is mean like him,
they constantly hurt my parents,
he is selfish and arrogant. He is all nice and dandy when he wants something done. afterwards humiliate my parents.
I can’t stand a side and watch this, I need to act but how can I help my parents to understand the true nature of him and set boundaries.
To understand your brother, it will be helpful to find out how he became the way he is now. After all, that little boy loved his parents deeply, wanted nothing but to be a good boy, to please his parents, to know that they like him and approve of him. All young boys and girls need this approval from their parents, their attention and love and will do anything to get it when is not there.
What happened to that little boy, what caused him to change?
maybe it’s his karma, for the heartache he caused to my parents,
me and my sister never grew like him, he wanted to be appreciated and loved by people who were bad news , to a point that he degraded himself where he is an puppet on string, people constantly uses him for their gains,
if we try to intervene and let him know that what’s good and bad, he’ll just defend his peers rather than accepting our concerns.
he has a persona when he is around these toxic people, he’s very kind and open. it is just sad to see how he’s bitter towards us, the actual people who care for him.