How do you deal with a boss that takes everything personally? Thinks they know what’s best for you based off the little personal information they have about your life? My boss is a “favorites” picker and although I’m usually on his list, I realize that it’s only if I do exactly everything he wants the exact way he wants it. When that becomes impossible then he becomes impossible too.

He pretends to be nice and approachable but everyone at the office is afraid of him. Very much like a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Recently I had to make a personal life choice that effected my work life in a big way. I was honest with everyone who needed to be involved (including my bosses boss who was very understanding) but my boss has been nothing but negative and difficult. It doesn’t fit with what he wants so instead of being flexible or trying to be understanding he is acting out and making my work life very uncomfortable. This is causing me a ton of work stress on top of the life stress dealing with my personal issue.

I feel like the issue itself is not important in these circumstances. Like I said, I was honest and open with the people who needed to be clued in and so far this one boss is the only person who hasn’t been understanding. I know hes upset because usually I fill in for him and he is then able to do whatever he wants, and this would prevent me from being able to do that. But I also can’t control that and feel like it’s not my fault if he just constantly relied on me and never thought to come up with a plan B.

Does anyone have any advice on dealing with a difficult boss? So far I have kept my cool, stayed polite and understanding, but I’m worried that the stress will cause me to snap or get upset and cry in front of everyone. He has a very nasty temper and is known for talking down to people. I only have to work with him a little bit longer so should I just keep my head down and take it in stride until I can officially move on?

I’m not sure how much more I can take!