So to make it short, i went online to Match.com…many guys messaged me but one stuck out. We talked for about 2 weeks before meeting and we both fell into each other pretty fast.

When we met however, he looked a lot different in person than in his picture. He told me i was even more beautiful in person but in my head i knew i could not say the same! Now, he was a perfect gentleman, he was not weird or rude. But the texting chemistry we had was just not there in person, and on top of that i was not physically attracted to him at all.

I never give guys a second chance because in my opinion if i dont feel it, i wont feel it later. So i went back and forth on this one and finally decided to “let him go” before he got his hopes up even higher. I let him know kindly that although he was a great guy, i just did not see the connection but that i hope he would find someone and he deserved the best.

So fast forward 2 days, i kept thinking about emotional chemistry vs physical chemistry and if one was more important for me than the other. I came to a realization that i do want some physical chemistry on some level, but i rather have emotional chemistry (which is what we had) So i sent him a message that i was wrong about this, and perhaps we could try another date, otherwise no hard feelings, and worst comes to worst we could end up as friends.

Now, i know i hurt him, and confused him but he seems to “proud”, i know he cares for me because after one message i wrote he wrote like 10 to me. He really loved the idea about me going to med school and how smart i am and how driven and ambitious i am….surprisingly though he threw this on my face and assumed i would never make time for him and that i was busy working..basically he judged me (yea i know like i did his looks) and even when i explained myself over and over it was never enough.

He said he doesn’t wanna end this and after i explained myself he said sorry it was a misunderstanding on my part…5 min later i get a message that we should indeed be friends….

honestly, i feel there could potentially be something here, so much has happened in just 2 weeks, i feel like we really really connect and i know i turned him down at first but i did it out of concern for him because i knew it would hurt him more for me to reject him after dating him longer than sooner, but i wanted to still see if it could work…im really bummed now, we will never know!

Guys did i mess this up? but i mean i explained why i had said what i said ( 2 years ago i broke up with someone and this still effects me) hes not perfect either…no one is…guys say they love you so much and when you make a mistake its over…when they make a mistake girls will beg ! help me please…can i even fix this???