I want to add to my previous message. It is hard for me to cut him off fully as well. We’ve known each other for so long and we are so close. What should I do? Maybe distant myself?

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Thank you for getting back to me. I am trying to distant myself right now and trying not to think about it. I miss him already. Part of me wants to reach out to him but I am keeping myself away from my phone.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Yes, he is still reaching out to me and keeping me updated of what he is doing. I don’t know what to do. He did mention last night that he is avoiding all the deep conversations with the new girl. He says he is trying to avoid questions that will lead to deep conversations when chatting with the new girl. Don’t you find him confusing?

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

I know. I shouldn’t have replied. I kept it to minimum and didn’t say much. Only one word reply. I think it will take me some time to finally stop replying to his text. I don’t know what I am doing either. Clearly I need help.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

I’ll get back to you tomorrow. Just need some time alone for a bit.

Thank you

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Just want to say I am doing better today. I think I will be okay. I’ve decided to move on totally. Today was an okay day for me. I will keep you posted about tomorrow.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Here’s an update of what has happened – I know I said I will move on. But things happened a few days back. After I confronted him how he has been hiding stuff from me lately, his anxiety flared up. I couldn’t help myself but to talk to him again. I knew about his anxiety from before. There were times he thought of ending his life. I tried talking to him when his anxiety happened and apologized for what I said to calm him down. I then left him alone for the rest of the evening to give him space as he requested some alone time. He didn’t want to speak to anyone and even asked me to leave him alone, which I did understand. Usually, when he has terrible anxiety, he would ask for space, so it’s nothing new to me. But I took it so personally that day. I tried calling him to find out more details and why he was like that. He wouldn’t pick up but texted me instead to leave him alone. I was worried for sure. However, after a few hours or so, he messaged me to let me know that he is doing fine and will sleep after watching a movie. I guess a part of him cares about me, but I’m not sure.

Anyhow, I followed up with him the next day to make sure he is doing okay. I wanted to make sure he is fine. He called me at night. We hardly spoke, but I stayed on the video call with him for like 2 hours until he went to bed. He was reading while I did my stuff.

I spoke with him today to make sure he is fine as he is still recovering from anxiety. I was on the video call again for more than an hour today until he went to bed. However, I noticed he was on his phone and was online in the messenger most the time even though he was responding to me. He kept his phone away from the screen, so I can’t see him typing or of him holding his phone. I know he is trying to hide from me after confronting him this new girl and how he has started to act differently with me. I even asked him if he has developed any feelings for her, and he said no, but I know they talk all day from first thing in the morning till bedtime. It’s been 1.5 weeks now.

I honestly don’t know what he is up to right now. I am going to leave him for sure. I just want to make sure he is okay before I drop him off.

Sorry for the long message.

Sarasa

Hi Anita,

Yes we did. We’ve known each other since small and we’ve met many times. He’s in a different city right now which makes it harder. The last I met him was before pandemic.

Sarasa