HI I been married over 7 years we have 2 beautiful children (under 6 years old) we have been seeing a marriage counsellor as the past year we have not been getting along on every level of our relationship. It started when we moved to this country over a year ago. After 3 weeks of moving here trying to settle in and find friends and a new life. My husband tells me we are heading for a divorce. I was so shocked i couldn’t say anything i just froze. I remember that time clearly as my daughter was even sitting on my lap! For the next year he started vocally abusing me, he told me i was lazy, good for nothing , a bitch all with my kids around. I was shocked and would just say nothing some times go in another room and cry. I had no family or friends in the country i was feeling very sad and overwhelmed. He is a real strong character i started feeling scared of him. He told me he would get a nanny and try and get rid of me. I would walk around the city doing my errands and have tears in my eyes. The next time he asked for a divorce i said that we needed help as i didn’t love him anymore..he said he hadn’t loved me for the past two years! (i was shocked to hear this – and felt betrayed that it was never talked about) Then i decided to do some study and take a course to keep my mind off things. One day a relief teacher walked in the room and i thought he was lovely, he just had a lovely aura about him, he smiled at me, he had patients, kind,considerate. I thought i would love to be with him!! he would be a great catch! he would make an effort to talk to me (mainly about study things) we would catch each others eye often and smile at each other. He knew i had kids, he meet them once and was so entertaining. He was so opposite to my husband. He was a good communicator he dressed well, he loved food, he was relaxed, encouraging. He had a real soft side to him and the best thing he wore his heart on his sleeve. I found out that teachers will be in a lot of trouble if they go out with students in this school, so i kept thing professional, but i really want to ask him out! Meanwhile after begging my husband to see a councillor we did. We are learning more about ourselves but i can see we are growing apart. We still do not see eye to eye on everything. From moving the furniture around to the children bed time. He usually takes the kids out by himself on sundays as i feel i get there is nothing i can do right around him. I have to fight for everything. So I’m in the situation, do i keep chipping away at my marriage which is not progressing one bit its only going backwards at this stage (we have both made it clear that we are together for the kids) or next year when i finish this course see if this guy is interested in starting a friendship…saying this i am 40years old he is 30! Yes i know there is kids involved and i have to think of my kids, but i want them to grow up in a loving environment where mum and dad kiss or they same that adults can have beautiful relationships plus somewhere they feel safe! thank you for your time.