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  • November 22, 2018 at 12:40 pm #240393
    Anonymous
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    Dear Jordan:

    I think that there is no  one school that will feel just right, not  one solution that will bring you a perfect  peace of mind at this time. Aiming at feeling better, at making some progress is a good enough aim.

    Did you attend counseling or psychotherapy for your depression and indecision? If so, what happened there?

    I  will soon be away from the computer for the next sixteen  hours or so. If you reply I will be glad to post again to you when I return. I hope other members will reply to you before I am back.

    anita

    November 22, 2018 at 2:24 pm #240425
    Jordan
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    I’ve been in therapy for a year and have tried many antidepressants. I never made progress though regardless of seeing specialists and trying various doses of meds. I keep telling people I have an issue with being indecisive and they just tell me it’s the depression. I guess it’s supposed to mean that once my depression is gone then I’ll no longer have the issue, but the depression will not go away and keeps getting worse regardless of treatment. I feel extremely stuck in this state of mind.

    November 23, 2018 at 4:54 am #243687
    Anonymous
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    Dear Jordan:

    I used to feel painfully indecisive myself, unable to make  choices,  paralyzed in indecision. Through psychotherapy, although late in life, and following a process of ongoing healing, I am able to  make decisions that I wasn’t  able to do before. When before I questioned every possibility, now things are clear, way  clearer than before. The way I am still preparing  myself to make bigger decisions is to make smaller decisions first.

    Choosing a school is a big decision, but what about the smaller decisions… if you practice the smaller decisions, you too will prepare yourself for the bigger decisions.

    Can you, or will you make a list of the small decisions you are facing  in a day, from the moment you wake up?

    anita

    November 25, 2018 at 7:47 am #248401
    yanette
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    I’m in a similar situation. This fall I transferred from a community college to my local state school. I went to the first week of classes and then i dropped all of my courses. The entire summer i was a nervous wreck and was constantly overwhelmed with anxiety. I was worried about the decisions i had made and i constantly thought about how every thing could turn out wrong.  And so i gave up and now i’m not working toward anything. That was the choice i made. I still don’t know if that was the right decision, but i am owning my choice.

    I too feel lost and I don’t know what I wish to do with my life. I don’t have any advice to give. But it’s going to be okay. I agree with anita, there is not one thing that is going to make you feel like you have it right. Instead of striving for perfection, give yourself credit for trying and making progress.

    I understand why you’re afraid of the school not working out for you, but don’t let fear stop you. I am sending you love and good wishes.

     

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