I agree with your idea about being a team, but only if each person is clear about what that means. The husband’s idea in his head might be his wife is going to have a great career making tons of money, and the wife may have the idea in her head she will stay home to raise their children. Each path is still being part of a team – but unless each half of the team is very clear about their roles prior to committing to the relationship, it’s not going to be good.

I think compromise is a large part of a relationship – give and take. If one person gets their way most of the time, the other person can feel taken advantage of or disrespected, and that gets old real fast.

Thanks everyone.

Hey Hannah, thanks for your post and a beautiful question 🙂

In my experience, there is no definite key to a good relationship. Everyone is unique and on their own journeys. However, when we are able to accept ourselves as we are, we find it easier to accept the other person for who they are without any prejudices and judgements and then every relationship becomes effortless.

Acceptance takes a lot of self growth and self awareness. It is not a team effort but it would useful to do it as a team as then you can move forward together. However, even if one person in the team can grow their awareness to such a level that you are able to accept the other people for who they are, the relationship takes a positive step forward. The positivity and divinity rubs onto other people and a shift occurs subtly but surely.

If everyone could just work on themselves ONLY, we can change the world in a way that no one can ever imagine but unfortunately, all of us have been trained to try and change everyone else (except for self) in the hope that the world will change. What an irony !!

Cheers

Jasmine