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April 21, 2014 at 11:09 am #55125
Mary tokenParticipantI am 55yra old woman
And was dumped on Wednesday last week, after 8 months…..the way I feel is just so pathetic for a woman my age..
Listless, no concentration, can’t be bothered with anything, sooo depressed, heartbroken I think !!
Why did he dump me…..because I asked to spend more time with him !!
He spat his dummy out, because I think he wanted a weekend with his mates…..
He has blocked me on face book, watts app and his phone….
I’m just so desperate to hear from him, to see him, to talk to him….I want him back…..but in reality…..I don’t think this will happen now….too many days have passed….
I work….but have no current close friends to speak of….I just don’t know what to do to get over this !!April 21, 2014 at 4:01 pm #55144
JoParticipantHi Val. I really feel for you 🙁 That sounds really tough – and especially if he has blocked you. I guess if I was in your shoes right now I’d be trying to give myself a cuddle, to say to myself that it’s ok to feel these things – they are natural. There’s certainly nothing wrong with you (and hey being 55 doesn’t mean this stuff gets any easier – i’m close behind at 51!). Don’t expect to feel any different for a while – it takes time, and if he doesn’t come back the feelings will lift. There’s emotional processing going on – under the surface – it will happen and you’ll make it through, you’ll see.
Josephine
April 21, 2014 at 6:50 pm #55151
Stevie Tea FlowersParticipantHey Val!
I am a man and know that sometimes, stupid stupid men don’t always understand the position they put others in especially when it comes to the female counter parts!It doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you!
But just so you know… one of the absolutely more attractive thing about any women is her wisdom and compassion, being 55 is only going to give you an advantage when seeking want you want and deserve and if he does not see that then someone else will!
Im sorry I do not have the female touch and knowing of what to say, but boys will be boys, its kinda like telling them not to do something, they do it more, the more you reach out the more he might push away. IM not sure of the answer to this enigma, but I do not, the stronger you are, the BETTER YOU WILL BE, and you may or may not grab his attention! ……. the real question is if he deserves it! 🙂
One of the absolute best things I would do is get a pad of paper, a pen, your favourite food and start writing… not necessarily about him (although it might come up) but about your past, your present, and a future that has bright colours!
Stay Strong, Beautiful and Young at Heart!
Sincerely,
1 of a very large group of decent guys 🙂
Ps… also try listening to classical music… Beethoven is good… YO YO Ma Cello suites on Youtube is my personal favourite and Paint!
April 21, 2014 at 11:47 pm #55165Mary tokenParticipantThank you both for your replies
I am on my way to work, but I’ll sit down tonight and write a proper reply
ValxApril 22, 2014 at 3:20 am #55176
WillParticipantWhat, at 55 you’re supposed to be immune to heart break? Did you guys get a secret innoculation at 50 or something? Why don’t I (34) know about this?
Cut yourself some slack, pretty lady. You got dumped. Pretty carelessly it seems. That hurts, no matter how old you are. You’re not pathetic. You’re mourning a relationship and all kinds of were’s and could-have-been’s. It’s OK. Allow yourself to mourn.
Focus on taking care of yourself, and when you’re ready, make efforts to be amoung people, maybe make new friends, open up opportunities for new relationships. All is not lost. There’s lots more life to come. All my best wishes.
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