I feel like I can not ever be in a relationship or even begin to pursue prospects until I get serious about making some changes in my life. I have a couple bad habits that I use as coping mechanisms that limit me being able to give all of myself to a person. I really want to change these habits but I do not have the will power to. Even though they help me cope with stressors, they affect my self esteem and make me feel less of a man. I pride myself on being prepared to be a good boyfriend and later husband whenever that time comes. A man of integrity and strength. A man of trust. Does anyone else feel this way? What are some of your struggles? How do you overcome these things?