Dear  cardell banks:

You described lots of assuming, guessing on both sides, and perhaps some dishonesty. Better ask clearly and expect clear  answers, then share your thoughts clearly, your intents, your wants.

When you ask a person questions, listen attentively to their answers, if it contradicts what they said before, or how they behave, ask about the contradiction, and listen attentively, again.

This clear communication I am suggesting can prevent a lot of problems that assuming and guessing  bring about.

anita