Ghosting, if you don’t know, is the modern term for something people have been doing for centuries, disappearing from people’s lives without saying goodbye. It’s disturbingly common and has probably happened at least once to everyone…except me. For as long as I can remember, it’s happened with almost every male oriented relationship (platonic and romantic) that I’ve ever had. And after 35 years (stubborn I know), I seriously cant deal with this anymore.

Now, its typical and even standard dating protocol for some to ghost/drop someone after a first date or first few if there is little or no chemistry/interest. But I’ve had father figures, brothers (non-bio) and people that I’ve been in serious relationships for several months just disappear. No drifting apart, no goodbyes, F-yous or reasons why. Just…gone, without any sign or clue that there were any problems.

I know its easier to just drop someone without confronting them, but come on. This is ridiculous. What once was excruciatingly devastating is now becoming disappointing and even, on some level, expected….which isn’t good. At this point I’m scared that I’ll meet the right one but by the time that happens, I’ll be too jaded or resentful to even care, WHICH ISN’T ME. Im an open, loving and peaceful person, but I feel I’m starting to lose a big part of myself that I may not be able to get back.

I need help and hope before it’s too late.

Thanks ahead to those that reply and even took the time to read. It means a lot to me.

• This topic was modified 7 years, 2 months ago by Ray Flores.