Will he regret breaking up with me and come back?

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January 24, 2017 at 1:57 am #126028

Andria
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My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for almost two years. We made a lot of mistakes during that period but we forgave each other. However, at some point of our relationship he started to not text me that much, not to spend so much time with me as we were almost everyday together. His behavior made me more jealous and overreacting over stupid situations. He broke up with me 6 months ago but I approached him again and we were kinda trying to fix things and finally be together. Unfortunately, this month he asked for some time by himself because he doesn’t know what he is feeling right now. I tried and pleased him a lot which I shouldn’t have done. He said he doesn’t want a relationship right now. Spying his social media accounts, facebook and instagram specifically, I noticed he likes the pictures of girls, he reacts on them sometimes or he receives reactions on his own pictures by girls. Yesterday, I noticed that he exchanged likes with a girl and later on he followed her on instagram. She followed back and liked a couple of his photos. I immediately blocked him as seeing this things, hurts my feelings. I know this might be a little immature but consider that we met on social media, in the exact same way; exchanging likes and then he messaged me. I gave my soul for him and it feels like i’m drowning now. Do you think he’ll ever regret breaking up with me and contact me?

January 24, 2017 at 2:18 am #126029
Amy
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I’m curious how old you and your ex-boyfriend are? 🙂
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January 24, 2017 at 2:35 am #126032

Andria
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He is 22 i am 19

January 24, 2017 at 3:04 am #126033

Amy
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Ok, this is just my opinion…

I’m 38 years old and I’m now married to a man who’s 49 years old. Before him, when I was already in my 30’s, I dated men in their 20’s. And now, my son is almost 20. So, I have a little bit of experience dealing with guys around your ex-boyfriend’s age.

First of all, the decrease in texting isn’t a good sign. Guys pretend to not be as “into it” as girls, but when they want to talk to a girl, they text just as much as we do! A guy will always make an effort to be in contact with a girl he wants to be with. That’s a hard thing to accept, I know first hand. I’ve had to tell myself many times “If he wanted to talk to me, he would be calling (or texting) me without me having to initiate it.”

Secondly, when a guy, especially a guy his age, says he needs some time for himself, he really just wants to do his own thing and wants to spend time with other people. It might be other girls or it might just be his buddies. But I don’t know very many 22 year old guys who need “me time” bad enough that they’ll quit seeing their girlfriend. Guys that age are rarely by themselves. You may notice his time by himself includes being with his friends.

I don’t know what country you live in, so I don’t know if you being 19 and him being 22 is like it is in America. Here, a 19 year old can’t drink or stay in certain clubs after specific hours. And, in SOME cases, 19 year olds are just starting college, whereas a 22 year old has already been there. So, there’s a possibility he wants to be around people his own age. And yes, that may include girls his age.

I don’t WANT to say this, but I don’t think he’s going to have an epiphany and realize he really wants to be with you. That’s not to say he doesn’t think about you or still like you. If I’m wrong and he does come back around, watch for any signs that he’s just looking for a good time because he thinks you’ll do anything to be with him. He may come back and genuinely want to be together, but he may come to you because he thinks you’re a sure thing…

January 24, 2017 at 3:42 am #126034

Andria
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The thing here is, he still gets jealous. He once told me “what if you are already with someone else when i’ll want you back?”. I just don’t get why he left. He gets mood swings day by day. One day he might call me and ask where I am and with who and ask me who is that guy who liked my pic. The other day he is so into likes, adds, follows, going out to clubs, bars, cafes. Forgot to mention that he has just started his studies (2 years of military and 1 gap year, he is almost 22). He is outgoing, he loves meeting new people. I dont know if this has to do with our breakup.

January 24, 2017 at 3:43 am #126035

Nina Sakura
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Hello,

I doubt he will come back..Sorry if this is too painful to hear but since you are too emotionally invested to see this, I will point it out.

Basically it’s been 6 months since you broke up. He has already told you he is unsure and has mentioned recently that he doesn’t want to be with you.

Clearly this relationship is over. He moved on long ago. It’s time you start accepting the reality of things and evaluate the situation, your own behaviours during your time with him.

Regards
Nina

January 24, 2017 at 5:57 am #126042

Inky
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Hi raroholic,

I think it’s at the point where even if he does come back, you have to let him go. For your own pride’s sake. I’m worried that you are the “One Waiting in the Wings”, the “sure thing” mentioned before. You must never let him think that! So if he shows up at your doorstep, drunk out of his gourd, don’t let him in the house, much less in your bed. In fact, don’t reply to his calls and texts for a while. A while would be a year. yes, a year. No big hot announcements, just don’t respond.

He broke up with you. But now you have to treat him as if you broke up with him. And to entertain the thought of you two getting back together one day? Wait until you’re out of school and he’s a grown up.

Just my opine!

Inky
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