Dear Maria:

Going back in time, how did you feel through getting the degree you have, four years of schooling? What was your focus then? Did you have regrets in the beginning, during, only after?

What about before your degree, five years ago, you as a teenager? How was your life then: were you motivated then? What was your motivation?

And back even more, as a young child: what was your life like then? What was your motivation then?

anita

Dear Maria:

Back in the days of your childhood and teenage years, when you daydreamed about traveling the world, what was happening in the home of your childhood? What was happening there, day in and day out?

anita

Dear Maria:

If you would like, share how it is the same. What is the nature of this sameness? The ways to find motivation and enthusiasm is in INSIGHT into the early – and in your case, still the same- home life, particularly, your relationship with your parents.
anita

Hi Maria,
I’d agree with Mark’s advice above – what tiny steps can you take today toward creating your dream life of traveling the world? (or whatever else your dream life would be) Every step you take adds momentum to your new journey. Even the one or two tries you had about foreign study scholarships might have created momentum, but maybe you stopped too soon. Don’t stop… keep going. Knowing that the job you have now gives you money to create the life you’re seeking might make it easier to keep going. Good Luck!!

I agree with Freesiabell. In fact, while I was traveling, I met so many people from New Zealand, Germany, Australia and Israel. All of these places promote travel. For me, coming from California, most people who found out I was planning to travel tried to discourage me. Anyway, you can create your own path. Just start.

Hi Maria,

There are a lot of people that go throught this in one way or another. So you are not alone 🙂

Others’ success is only your PERCEPTION .You follow particular mass-BELIEFS about what success is and through this judge yourself and others (as you have been thought). Within this judgement, you do not understand whether anyone is actually happy including yourself… Nonetheless, you have learned about what makes you unhappy early in life and this is good! For you are still young and these days we have more opportunity and time to get things right in life… So be excited!

Know that there are many people out there that did not follow anyone else’s footsteps to create their happiness! Don’t wish you were someone else, you are just as mighty as anyone else! Go be special and unique as you already are, and create your future!…

Consider that first of all – This is your life and your journey. Forget others, expectations, standards and time milestones… How can anyone have an expectation about you, if they do not know who you are… – Do you know?.. Go find out!! In small, big or unusual steps… no rules!

It is often when you start thinking for yourself that you have to break through limited beliefs that you or others may hold, and you find they have limited you or misguided you. In this moment, you experience what can work for others may not work for you. You experience that the choices we make sometimes lead us in a wrong direction. This is not failure!

Going through this experience might actually make you more self aware from now on and, as a result, you will make better choices and be more successful in the future! Moving forward in life ‘automatically’ is not a feat, so you have woken up 🙂 Remember, you are not alone in your experience!

In the same way you perceive your peers and their ‘success’, others may view you and see how wonderful you are in achieving your success in obtaining a degree etc… This is just a beginning. Now, you need to find a focus wherein you are happy again to self-express and for it to be nurturing rather than depressing. This may mean more soul searching, study or work… You sound very capable and so I expect you have the powers to create the reality that you want for yourself! And so, trust you are able to do this!

As soon as you start following your wants and needs, you will attract things/people that will help, inspire and inform you on the way! Do not hide and stay away from where you want to go!

Do not fear or ‘be embarrassed’ to have to follow your own journey. If your journey is not ‘appreciated’ by others in your environment, remember there is a whole world out there that doesn’t really care and will appreciate you as you are. There are millions of others who struggle with similar ‘transformations’. We all land on our feet in the end. Some are even ‘successful’ people you know or learn about and they can inspire you!

You may find your business studies may help you in the future, they may set you apart or contribute to your future success. Remember that your experiences and learning so far are not time waisted! Do not be disappointed yet… there is no reason.

Currently, it is you who chooses to ‘wallow’ and self-inspect… but this happens and it is OK 🙂 Perhaps you need something to ‘shock’ yourself, a different environment or something that throws you into the deep to kickstart yourself. Sometimes it can also be your environment and the beliefs that circulate that depress you, but you do not realise. Go challenge!

Remember that what often limits you are your perception and your beliefs, not reality. You are disappointed with is in fact your perception. Change your mind; There is not one way. No belief is absolute, and often they are not even true 🙂 Anything is possible!

– Capture your dreams, inspirations, wishes, wants and needs (images, texts, subscriptions or your writings). So you can define, understand and visualise your direction better.
– Soul searching does pay off! Go travel or put yourself in different environments. Maybe you need to be inspired or discover yourself on a completely different or unexpected ‘level’.
– Hard work does pay off! Try out different things. Or choose to study again – a masters or another degree, full-time or part-time in the evening while working. Or try plan out different journeys you could take in achieving goals.
– There is no one way, it is only your fear, perception and beliefs that block you – these may be yours or others’.
– Focus inward to move forward! In focusing outward you are not considering what you want and ignore discovering your purpose. You are like no one else 🙂

You are just as wonderful, talented and mighty as anyone – and maybe you are just waking up to it. This is exciting. Go find, express and realise how wonderful you can be! Trust in that 🙂