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10 Ways to Get Happy

“Happiness depends upon ourselves.” ~Aristotle

I think having lived in 3 different countries, traveled to 21, studied 5 languages, had 17 different job titles, taken 36 courses (in social media, getting in touch with my intuition, sexual psychology, journalism, marketing, and spiritual guidance, to name a few subjects), given birth to 3 healthy kids (1 boy and 2 girls), lost 1, and suffered through 3 broken relationships has given me some insights in life.

But also, having been part of 1 religious group and managed to get out, done some serious soul searching, written 393 articles, surrounded myself with 5 close friends (as well as 250 clever Facebook friends and even more people who inspire me without knowing me), started 1 business in communications and soulful living, lived 40 years, written 1 paper book and 2 e-books, and having read 792 qualifies me for giving some advice on how to live a happy life.

Here is what I’ve learned:

1. Live now.

Yes it’s such a cliché, but dwelling on the past or constantly planning the next step stops us from enjoying life here and now. Here and now is when we live. We might live tomorrow as well. But who knows.

2. Follow your dream.

I’m not talking about “a good job,” “a fine house” or “an okay life,” or, for that matter, taking up knitting, which you’ve dreamed about for years. I mean truly and utterly opening the channel to your inner core and seeing what you find. I mean doing what you really want to do with the rest of your life.

Impossible, you say? Well, I don’t mean quitting your job and jumping into the unknown. I mean, setting up a plan and some goals to start doing what you’ve always dreamed about, step-by-step if you like. And when you do, (wo)man will you glow.

3. Give.

Yes, I know we sometimes feel like we give and give and get nothing in return. But hey, it’s in the giving, and doing it unselfishly, that we find true happiness.

Give freely from the depth of your heart. Help a friend in need. Help a child in your sphere. Help an organization in Africa. Help the homeless in the street. What ever your cause, help and set yourself free.

4. Think positively.

Our thoughts are so powerful that it rocks my soul at the core when I think about it. And yes, we’ve heard it all before. But we humans think so many negative thoughts every day, and it’s in this negative sphere that we live and breathe.

Can you sense the contaminated thought-air? I can. Well then, change it! 

5. Spread your love.

We all have our problems, and if we are to wait until we are problem-free before we love and share the love, it will never happen.

So how do we spread the love? It’s easy. Say a kind word, help someone, give someone a hug or a smile, send loving energy around you, think love, meditate love, live love, act love, make love, and encourage another person to do all of the above.

6. Get support.

Although I do believe we all hold some hidden super powers within, I also believe we need support. Find out what you need to live happy and make sure you get it.

Do you need a mentor? Do you need to get rid of some energy thieves around you? Do you need technical help? Do you need someone to tell you you’re wonderful every day? Ask someone to tell you. Whatever it is, take charge and make sure you get it. We cannot do everything on our own.

7. Take charge.

Yes, you are your own steering wheel, your compass, the principal of your life. Don’t sit back and expect others to solve your problem. Don’t sit back and wait for your boss to offer you another position. Don’t wait for prince(ss) charming to propose to you. Do it yourself!

Also, remember, you are entitled to live happily. If you need to meditate one hour a day, take a walk when the sun is out, or exercise in the morning to be happy, do it. You are allowed. Find out what you need and do it.

8. Change and adapt.

Society is a changeable commodity. We need to change and adapt. If you sit too tightly on your chair, you will not be happy.

Not many things are certain in life, but two things are: We all will die; and more importantly, things will change. Your job won’t last forever, your kids will grow up, your house will age, and your spouse will change.

We all need to change and adapt. Take the opportunity to have fun with it. See it as a positive.

9. Have fun.

Yes, life is supposed to be fun. Many days it’s hard to believe, but it’s true. And how do we get there? Laugh every day. If not, at least smile. Smiling releases tension; and endorphins spread in your body, even when you fake smile. Smiling is like a free happy pill. Do fun stuff!

10. Last but not least, remember who you are.

We are much greater than we realize. You are a spiritual entity. You have a higher purpose. You are connected to all living things. You hold some super powers.

And a great magical world is available to you. You just need to find your path to it. Look within.

Remember you. Your life is supposed to be happy.

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About Pernilla Hjort

Pernilla Hjort is a writer, blogger, psychic reader, healer, social media addict, educator, entrepreneur, singer, yogalicious web queen who loves to inspire, create, meditate, read books, and ski. Proud mama of Viggo, Vera, and Vanda. Excited Co-runner of Soultribe. Visit www.pernillahjort.com and follow @pernillahjort.

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  • Kyle Lopez

    its amazing to say, that I, as a 14 year old boy, has experieced things many would never have experience till adulthood. Most of these things in the Tiny Buddha Articles are just absolutely amazing and i can relate to what I have experienced in just 14 years on Earth. Ive learned so much from the past, the mistakes i made, and i used to dwell on those things, but now, im happy it has happened, because it makes me stand where i am now. Happy. Alive. Free. and so touched within the Lords heart. Now my goal now is to pass on what ive learned to the people of the world. To make a difference in the world.

  • Blue Birds

    Thank you!Awesome article!

  • soof

    Amazing article! Every word spoke to me and echoed my own personal thoughts. What a wonderfully and concisely written “remember to do” list to keep as daily inspiration for living a happier, healthier life. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=563450541 Mark Hashizume

    http://www.salon.com/2012/11/25/positive_thinking_is_for_suckers/

    The Buddhist approach ofacceptance of both the negative and the positive seem to be the way.

    Being peace seems to be a better goal rather than chasing happiness.

    With that said, I do not disagree with your steps.

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    We are eternal beings, perhaps you are wiser and older than you think! :) Pernilla

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    That’s very insightful Mark. Thank you for sharing!

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    That’s a good idea, to keep it as a remember-to-do-list, thanks for the advice and your words make me happy I wrote it!

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Thank you Blue Birds! Glad to please!

  • Sandra / Always Well Within

    I can hardly believe all the places you’ve been! I’m glad you put living in the present moment as number 1, I don’t think it’s cliche at all! Number 9 resonates for me especially as I’m very keen on having more fun and I’ve witnessed the power of a smile to transform again and again. Most important of all, I feel, is the realization that happiness comes from within.

  • http://www.madlabpost.com/ Nicole/TheMadlabPost

    I enjoyed reading this list…some great reminders in there, especially the part about taking charge of the steering wheel or compass. I tend to only smile when I have a solid reason to do so….but I surely welcome a free happy pill any day of the week! That’s the only one that likely comes without much instruction or side effects ;)

  • http://www.facebook.com/wade.lowe.7 Wade Lowe

    Ten Ways To Get Happy——–Absolutely Wonderful ! ! ! Wade @ wadelowe59@gmail.com Thank You so very much for posts of this sort .

  • Dochy

    Wow oh wow! This is SUCH a brilliant post! All the points were awesome and most importantly I just LOVED your introduction! Has anyone told you that you are one helluva writer??? You are :)

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Now someone has, thanks Dochy!

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Wade, I’m so glad you liked it and hopefully can relate to it and find it useful!

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Nicole, I also love the fact that we have free happy pill with no side effects! Hope you get to take it a lot in the future too!

  • http://www.facebook.com/KarinaLadet Karina Ladet

    I LOVED this post, Pernilla! Awesome intro too : ). Big hugs, Karina

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Thank you so much for your support Karina!

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Life IS all about having fun, we tend to forget that sadly enough! Thanks for your encouraging words Sandra!

  • lv2terp

    What a lovely post, truly inspiring! Thank you for sharing these great tips and the decisiveness that we all are meant/have a right to be happy…do whatever that means…LOVE IT! :)

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Thank you sweetie!

  • http://twitter.com/LindaSamuels Linda Samuels CPO-CD

    Love all of these! Even if you focus on just one of the ten tips, your happiness quotient will increase dramatically. Small steps. Start somewhere.

  • DAY

    Thank you.

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    No, Thank You! :)

  • http://twitter.com/pernillahjort Pernilla Hjort

    Exactly, eat the elephant in pieces, Linda!

  • Ali

    Awesome article! It’s so great to read and remind ourselves of what we can do to cheer up and be happier in general. I actually just wrote a similar post on my blog – http://lightandpapershop.com/ – with practical ideas on how to “up the happy”

    Be happy everyone!

  • MOHINDER KUMAR

    It has been wonderful to know that it takes small changes in your present life to be happy .It gives great pleasure by sharing ,spreading love and humanity with positive attitude.