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40 Ways to Create Peace of Mind

“Set peace of mind as your highest goal, and organize your life around it.” ~Brian Tracy

There was a time when I thought peace was a destination, in much the same way I imagined I’d eventually arrive at happiness or success.

It seemed like something I needed to chase or find—definitely not something I could experience without dramatically changing my life.

I needed to work less, relax more, and generally revamp my circumstances and relationships in order to be a peaceful person.

Despite seeing peace as an endpoint, I also saw it as something passive—after all, that’s why I was so stressed: I had so much to do.

I’ve since realized that peace is always available, and like any desirable state of mind, it requires effort, even if that effort entails consciously choosing to be still.

Sure, our circumstances affect our mental state, but they don’t have to control them, not if we make tiny choices for our well-being.

Admittedly, it’s not easy to choose peace when we’re going through tough times. I still go through periods when I get caught up in worries and stresses, and it can feel like that’s the only available response to things that have happened.

But it’s not. There are countless things we can do to create peace of mind—both in response to events in our lives, and proactively, everyday.

If you’d also like to develop a greater sense of peace, you may find these suggestions helpful:

Meditation

1. Take 5-10 minutes for a simple seated meditation.

2. Take 100 deep breaths, counting “and one,” “and two,” and so on, with “and” on the inhalations and the numbers on the exhalations.

3. Take a meditative walk, focusing solely on the physical sensations of walking—the earth under your feet, the swing of your hips.

4. Find a guided meditation on YouTube and let it lull you into a blissful state of presence.

5. Practice alternate nostril breathing. Hold the left nostril down and inhale through the right; then hold the breath. Release the left nostril, hold the right one down, and exhale through the left. Now start on the left with an inhalation, exhaling on the right. This is one set. Do up to five of them.

Communication

6. Write down everything that’s weighing you down mentally and then burn it as a form of letting go.

7. Write down everything you’ve learned from a difficult experience so you can see it as something useful and empowering instead of something to stress you out.

8. Tell someone how their actions affected you instead of holding it in and building resentment.

9. Call someone you’ve denied forgiveness and tell them you forgive them.

10. Apologize for a mistake instead of rehashing it, and then choose to forgive yourself.

Creativity

11. Engage in a little art therapy; grab some crayons, markers, or paint and put all your feelings on the page.

12. Create a peace collage. Include images that make you feel relaxed and at ease. (Google “peace collage” and you’ll get lots of ideas!)

13. Meditate on your favorite peace quote and then write it in calligraphy for framing.

14. Take a walk with the sole intention of photographing beautiful things that make you feel at peace, like a tree with colorful autumn leaves.

15. Write a blog post about what gives you peace of mind. (This has been a calming experience for me!)

Activity

16. Get up and dance to your favorite song, focusing solely on the music and the movement. Get into your body and get out of your head!

17. Take a long walk on the beach, focusing on the feel of the sand between your toes and the sound of the crashing waves. Cliché, but highly effective!

18. Go for a bike ride in a scenic part of town, and immerse yourself in the calm of your environment.

19. Take 5−10 minutes for stretching, syncing your breath with the movements (or if you have an hour, visit a local studio for a yoga class).

20. Declutter a cluttered part of your home, creating a more peaceful space.

Acceptance

21. Muster compassion for someone who hurt you, instead of wallowing in bitterness, which will make it easier to forgive them and set yourself free.

22. Set aside some time to actively enjoy the good things about the present instead of scheming to create a better future.

23. Create a list of things you love about yourself instead of dwelling on how you wish you were different.

24. Focus on what you appreciate about the people in your life instead of wishing they would change (assuming you’re in healthy relationships).

25. Recognize if you’re judging yourself in your head with phrases like “I should have” or “I shouldn’t have.” Replace those thoughts with, “I do the best I can, my best is good enough, and I’m learning and growing every day.”

Solitude

26. Start reading that book you bought about dealing with the challenge you’ve been facing.

27. Schedule a date with yourself—a time when you don’t need to meet anyone else’s requests—and do something that feeds your mind and spirit. Go to a museum or take yourself to your favorite restaurant and simply enjoy your own company.

28. Sit in nature—under a tree, on a mountain—and let yourself simply be.

29. Be your own best friend. Tell yourself what’s on your mind, and then give yourself the advice you’d give a good friend who had the same issue.

30. Repeat some positive affirmations that help you feel present, peaceful, and empowered.

Connection

31. Tell the truth in your relationships. When we hold in our true feelings, we create stress for ourselves. Be kind but honest and share what you really feel.

32. Catch critical, blaming, or self-victimizing thoughts. Instead of ruminating on what someone else did wrong, express yourself and ask yourself what you can do to create the change you’re seeking.

33. Have fun with someone you love. Forget about everything that feels like a problem and do something silly and childlike.

34. Connect with someone online who can relate to what you’re going through and create a mutually supportive relationship by sharing and listening.

35. Let someone into your self-care routine—ask a friend to join a yoga studio with you, or invite your sister to jog with you on the beach.

Contribution

36. Volunteer your time to help a charity you believe in. Put all your energy into helping someone else, and you will inadvertently help yourself.

37. Volunteer at your local animal shelter. Animals are naturally present, and it’s contagious!

38. Do something kind for someone else without expecting anything in return. If they ask what they can do for you, tell them to pay it forward.

39. Leverage your passion to help someone else (i.e.: if you’re an aspiring designer, design a logo for a friend). You get to get in the zone doing something you love; someone else gets support they need. A win/win!

40. Leverage your purpose to serve someone else, not for money—just because. That might mean helping them pursue their passion, or motivating them to reach their fitness goals. Whatever gives your life meaning, give it to someone freely.

As is often the case with these types of list, this can seem a little long and overwhelming. The important thing is that we do at least one tiny thing every day to create mental stillness. What helps you create peace of mind?

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About Lori Deschene

Tiny Buddha Founder Lori Deschene is the author of the Tiny Wisdom eBook seriesTiny Buddha's Guide to Loving Yourself, and Tiny Buddha: Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions. She's also co-founder of Recreate Your Life Story, an eCourse that helps you change your life. For inspiring posts and wisdom quotes, follow on Twitter & Facebook.

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  • joychristin

    Such a beautiful message…living even just one of these tips is a wonderful way to cultivate/amplify peace. I think peace is a practice of love…we don’t always know “how” yet it can be great fun to explore and share :) Thank *you* for all that you reflect and share!

  • Sally

    wow reading that actually made me cry! I can relate to so much of that so I’m going to print it out and put it on my kitchen wall (am I allowed to do that?!).
    Thank you
    Sally

  • Kimbundance

    This is very helpful, definitely book-marking this! During busy times, it’s hard to get centered again. I suppose it’s a habitual process that one must be able to carry out always instead of a one time deal.

    Much gratitude!

  • Guest

    These are the types of posts I love reading the most! Numbers 36 and 38 are my personal favorites… I find it so beneficial to immerse myself in helping others because it helps me learn about what means the most to me. 14 and 16 are so true as well. I think for number 8, the (sort of) opposite is often helpful to me in many situations… if someone has affected me in a postive way then I feel a need to let them know!

  • Dawn

    Wow, what a list. Bookmarked! Thank you x

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    Of course you are! You’re most welcome. I’m glad you found this helpful. =)

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re welcome!

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    I love list posts too! That’s a great point, about going the opposite of 8. It’s always nice to give someone that acknowledgement and appreciation. =)

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    I’m glad you enjoyed this Kim! I’ve definitely found that, about making it a habitual process. When I get caught up in worries, I know I need to give more attention to the little things.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome. I love what you wrote about peace being a practice of love..so true!

  • Sue

    Very thorough list! Love that some take just 5-10 minutes. I also find that going to a kirtan chant concert or singing along to a kirtan CD can bring peace. Not sure if it’s the words sung (devotional in nature) or perhaps just the act of singing itself that creates the result.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    I love kirtan music Sue! Great addition to the list. =)

  • BubbaThePirate

    Thanx!

  • hemant

    yes u r right

  • sue

    Thank you.

  • ridhi

    Wow that was amazing! Ir realy helped. Bwautiful tips! Inspired so much that I feel helped already. Thank you

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome. :)

  • Guddi

    I am soooooo happy to know these 40 hints,being Buddhist,to know it is awesome.
    Thanx.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome!

  • priyanka

    Wow, this is extremely beautiful… People should google for something good like this…

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    Thanks so much. I’m glad you enjoyed it!

  • Rajaram

    This is awesome. Browsing of peace of mind yielded me to have a very good understating of a big book written on this matter are simply cut made as just 40 points. Each points are so real and worth remembering every minutes of our day to day life to have our life with full calmness and tranquility. Thank you very much for these golden points. I Will definitely try my level best to adapt these habits in my life. Thank you sister once again.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You are most welcome Rajaram. =)

  • sinku

    sinku

  • linda.

    These are useful tips to motivate me to show kindness without expecting any return. learning to forgive will give me peace of mind.thanks

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You are most welcome!

  • drradiologist.

    its jus wow… really very helpful n the lines r beautiful n peace making… i donno how hard it wud b but ll try n follow dis. thank u so much.

  • Kuhreeseteyn

    This is a life-changer. Thank you so much!

  • Guest

    I m really going Through some tough time.I was really collapsing before n even thought to end everything……….but a random search bought me to this page and it really helped me a lot…Thank you :)(This is 1st smiley i have put since ages )

  • Cg Prince

    TRUE IT IS ,,,,,,,PEACE IS WITHIN US AND THE WAYS SAID ABOVE ARE WORTH FINDING OUR INNER PEACE

  • mamlesh

    loved these things….may be u helped me to be a peace lover then being ambitious fool…….:)

  • hiraya

    Singing. Random humming. -creative and could also be meditative :)

  • kaushik

    thank you very much !

  • NEERAJ KUMAR

    thanks a lot

  • Atiq

    Yes I liked above words, these are full of meaning every word has a mystery of peace. But I need more help….. I have lost control over myself.. and don’t have slightest idea what to do? M blank

  • goutam

    i liked it, I want to come out from this mechinical life , I want to do something which can make me happy & only have a meaning ful life with a simle lifelyhood….. basss, can any one help me , please contact me at 09934313985

  • babin

    Thank you so much…it indeed is very helpful….shall read it over and over until I csn fully put into practice…

  • Amit Singhai

    It was really helpful. i will start practicing from today. Thanks Lori

  • aman

    pleasure time reading this article…………….
    really feel great reading this….. :)

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    I’m glad you enjoyed it Aman!

  • Kashif Ansari

    peace of mind can come from hydrotherapy where we literally return to the state of unconscious oneness we experienced in the amniotic sac (the mother’s womb). it can come from a whiff of a lady’s perfume as she passes us by or by looking at a beautiful scenery such as a sunset or a waterfall. in fact water trickling down from a twisted rag too can give a lot of mental peace. finally the peace that comes from a hug or kiss or simple cuddling minus the sexual element is too much to even state in words. you have to experience it to appreciate it.

  • Anonymous

    Goutam,
    No one can help u better than U. Find peace within Urself.

  • Aman Kumar Bhardwaj

    It feels good to read this article. I read it couple of times. Great work Lori !!! You did a great and beautiful job, this will certainly help people. Keep doing this kind of work.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    Thanks so much Aman. I’m glad it was helpful to you! =)

  • Abul Bashar
  • Sree

    Thank you so much.. I actually cried… It made me really feel better…

  • Dr. Varma .. India

    a very good piece of writing : crisp…understandable ..highly practical and full of commonsense ( which is usu-sally uncommon) and what more.. you have given a neat prescription to practice happiness through simple processes and very realistic activities which , I am sure everybody will love and appreciate and apply in their lives . However I am going to give it a try with all my heart .. Thank u so much LORI

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome, and thank you for the taking the time to leave such a kind, thoughtful comment! =)

  • lakshmi

    Nice tips inspirational one for peace for day to day life thank u want to read once more:-).

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome. =)

  • Chhotelal Nishad

    thank you very much !

  • Chhotelal Nishad

    I am sooo happy to know these 40 hints,being Buddhist,to know it is awesome.

  • Chhotelal Nishad

    I am soooooo happy to know these 40 hints,being Buddhist,to know it is awesome.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome!

  • desiii

    All said and done….your mind gets peaceful sometimes when you yell your brains out at someone….I have experienced that !!!

  • Reena

    it makes me feel to be always relax…………………thanks tiny buddha

  • Casey

    I would like to read more about finding peace in work and school maybe? College is very stressful especially when leaving home for a long time

  • uchiha

    thanks we will read the articles most from now on

  • Nix

    Great article, when i read i feel like ‘yes, i should do this’ , But turning into action always seems to be the problem, this stresses me even more :|

  • nalini shukla

    what if, you find that anxiety fascinating..?? i want peace, but when i am at verge to attain it, i feel i ll miss the search for it…!!

  • Kennedy Desmond Moreau

    I’ve always had a peaceful state of mind and a positive optimistic outlook but lately I’ve started to go through some stages in my life where I suffer from depression and everything, reading this has helped me with a good chunk of my fourteen year old life, thanks ma’am.

  • Narendra

    Exactly what i wanted to know..
    Felt good as i kept on reading…
    Thanks for such good post :)

  • Banoj

    Really a nice article…..Thanks Ms Lori

  • Amarachi Agina

    what is a great message, i feel like reading it over and over again. it really moved my life. thanks for the this article. i loved it

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome! =)

  • ram

    really simple,really good,

  • Lalita Powar

    So cool and simple activities for the creating the peace in mind. Thanks for sharing this.

    Sometimes meditation helps me a lot to calm the mind.

    http://www.artofliving.org/in-en/meditation

  • Sathish

    tnq :) for sharing

  • chanchal

    Thanks you so much for sharing ur though.

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re welcome. :)

  • Calisto

    Well said… I wouldn’t imagine any better way of life.. Thanks for sharing your experience..

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome!

  • SSM

    A peaceful read!
    Great Work! Will start following from now only!
    Thank you so much Lori ! God Bless!

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed it! =)

  • Gargi Dave

    HI LORI,
    juz like many others dis list made me also cry.
    thanks alot for posting it. i juz read it and m already feeling better

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome. I’m glad it helped. :)

  • Geff

    I have not got a Sister and I can’t feel my toes alot of the time.So the run along the beach is out but the rest is helpful.Thanks.

  • Garima

    It was indeed a great piece of writing on Peace Of Mind and good observation as well..:)
    And you dont forget to Thank people..which is truly a good habbit,encourages people to share their views with you..Keep up!! thumbs up.