Hey Jane , yes thanks to everyone for responding. Sorry it took so long for me to write back but yes I have the same issue as you I have always been a very calm peaceful person. It takes a lot to get me anger but I realized in my relationship with him Ive become an angry person. Most of the time I feel like im talking to a wall. Completely unheard. hes so into himself and cares only about himself that he wont every empathize with someone else. The other day I actually came to him and told him how I was bothered that he never said anything to me about my concern with a family problem. And instead of just hearing me he actually got upset at me for bringing it up and was saying how im so dramatic and need to just get over things. IN turn it makes me always feel so guilty because I dont like to upset other people but I dont see why me coming and saying hey last night i was so worried about my family etc and him just sitting there being completely quiet then falling asleep bothered me. If its not something that affects him personally he could care less. It worries me becuase I am very empathetic but hes not and he even admits to it and says well Im just not like that. I feel stuck and not sure what to do. And its funny because everytime he has had a problem I have always been there to talk to him and give him advice and say words that are positive. But I dont think he even appreciates that . He cares more about what he looks like in the mirror than his partner hurting. I truly feel lonely in my relationship.