Dear anita:

My dad usually get’s tempered when there’s traffic. He also tends to get angry if he perceives that someone is being disrespectful to him. Like for example, my 31 year old sister. She also has a quick temper. So I’m really used to it when sometimes she sounds a little mad at me, although she doesn’t actually do it on purpose. I just get annoyed because I don’t think the tone of her voice is very nice. She makes it sound like she’s annoyed with me, or something. Anyway, I am kind of like my mom. I neutralize it because I do not react to these sorts of things.

Anyway, because my sister has that tendency, two quick-tempers can clash. Sometimes it can be about trivial things. The most recent one I’ve witnessed is my dad getting angry because he perceived my sister’s “disrespectful” tone of voice. He would say things like “don’t talk to me like that, I’m your father.” even though I know that it’s just my sister’s habit and she’s not really saying insults. It’s just the way she speaks sometimes. Basically they both get madder and madder, and my mom does tell them to stop. She does it gently.

So far, you see, it’s only verbal. There is no physical tendencies. This is very good.

I only mean that my mom doesn’t “intervene” in terms of life advice. I feel very lost in life sometimes and she doesn’t really guide me that much in terms of the adult life. Of course she answers my questions when I ask, but I don’t even know what types of questions to ask sometimes. Of course, she tries to help, but I would have appreciated if she was actually a little more nosy into my business or something. Like, if she had more OPINIONS about things. (Hope that doesn’t sound too demeaning…)

I also mean she doesn’t “intervene” in my basic growing up. She thinks I can learn most things on my own. I guess that’s because that’s also how she grew up, but I’m not sure. It really, REALLY, could be just her personality.

So in terms of socializing, yeah, they didn’t teach me what I needed to know. I mean, the times have changed, so perhaps the context for socializing has also changed.

What I hate about my old school is that people have divided themselves on a social hierarchy. It’s so similar in many schools nowadays, of course. The popular ones, the cool ones, the okay ones, the outcasts. I don’t know how more common it is now than before. You do know the millenial generation has become quite narcissistic (I hope this sentence doesn’t offend anyone. Of course I am not trying to generalize it to ALL millenial kids).

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