Dear norit:

Any time you post is fine. The third dimension I mentioned in my last post to you is something you had when you were a young child but it was taken away from you by your parents. When they ignored your feelings, your awareness of your feelings dried out, from lack of attention and validation by your parents. They taught you that what they feel matters and what you feel doesn’t. So you ignored your own feelings, figuring they really don’t matter.

But you need your feelings, you need to be aware of them so to be healthy and live a good life. And so, the third dimension is becoming aware of your feelings. You are aware of anxiety and depression, but these are not simple feelings, they are a whole lot of feelings scrambled in a mass or a mess, and those simple feelings need to be untangled and freed.

An example of a simple feeling (inside that mass of depression) would be a feeling of hurt when you tried to help your mother and instead of appreciating it, she ignored your efforts, once again.

To get in touch with your simple feelings and so, develop that third dimension, competent psychotherapist will help, a support group perhaps (free), a place with people where you feel safe to express your feelings.

Of course, you are welcome here, anytime.

anita