Hi Anita,

Thanks, Anita for your advice. So I heard the inner bully rattling and I noticed it and told it to stop. The inner bully has faded in some portions, but still sneaks back every now and then. Currently I just want to isolate myself from people to find myself. There are two sides of me warring with each other, one side that wants to follow the labels and another side that wants to break free and live as my soul. The side that wants to live with the labels is still afraid of people’s criticisms and also wants to stay in the lines. The other side that wants to be my soul is about living life being who I am. I want to merge both of them, but I’m not sure how. I like your advice for dealing with bullies, I followed it and the bully left me alone and I felt stronger. So here is the question, How do I find myself amongst people when it seems like my inner bully tries to sneak in? How do I isolate myself at times when I need to be alone without appearing aloof and cynical? My special friend has been a bit worried about me lately because I have become more withdrawn, but I’m trying to find myself.