Dear Poppy:

You are welcome. “To heal the people pleaser/fixer in (you) so” to put yourself first instead of others, find opportunities in your day to day life (and no opportunity is too small; every opportunity is significant!) to practice doing just that, in a practical way. For example, saying this to a person, or not doing that… be aware of your automatic tendency, your mental and physical habit of operating, and then choose a different way.

Practice this in your daily life and you will build the new habit of putting yourself first.

anita