Dear Hannah:

Congratulations for passing the driving test!

Regarding the rest of your last post: I agree with your statement: “I am starting to look obsessed”- you certainly are.

This was, after all, a THREE MONTH relationship, three months only that you and him were present in each other’s life, in person. There were a couple of months of a LDR before and after. That is all. And as a result of those few months, you “feel ashamed, worthless and unlovable.. sorrow and pain endless… spiraling deeper into despair and self loathing…”

These feelings of being unlovable, self loathing, this sorrow and pain could not have originated in this three month relationship (which was loving by your account, he was decent, by your account, no abuse)- these feelings must have been there before you met him.

Best attend competent psychotherapy. Disengage from him, please.

anita