Dear Harleen Bajwa:

So your suggestion for a person who is being abused, in certain circumstances at least,  is to “see if the mistake is yours for what you are being abused, admit it and promise for a better performance”

– I disagree: such response means that the abused is taking responsibility for the abuse. The abuser is responsible for his behavior, not the abused. The response you suggested encourages the abuser to continue to abuse the same person and others.

Thank you for answering my question. I have no more questions.

anita