March 16, 2017 at 8:01 am #139773
One always does not have to fight with your fist or words,the strongest battle is one where you use your mind-any idiot can use his hands,but what matters in the end is what you do with your head……..Don’t let them get the best of you,don’t let them break you-show them that you’re fearless and that it’s not about who can take the best swing,but who can stand tall in the end…..March 16, 2017 at 8:08 am #139777
Dear Harleen Bajwa:
I would like to understand your post better, therefore I ask:
If a person fights you with words, being abusive, calling you names, yelling at you, etc., what do you do so to “stand tall in the end”?
anitaMarch 16, 2017 at 10:35 pm #140005
M glad u asked me this question…if someone is being abusive he is showing you his extticates and where he stands in life…You need not stoop down to that level,you always have a choice of walking away….If you cannot walk away as there are situations you cant walk away…then Pls try to understand where the anger us coming from..that is the best way he has learnt to explain and express himself,it is his emotion which he has chosen and trust me he feels troubled too…….Do your bit of understanding and vibrating higher…and next time don’t give him a chance oṭ allow him to abuse you….March 17, 2017 at 7:34 am #140043
Dear Harlee Bajwa:
I like your suggestion to walk away from an abusive person. I wouldn’t be present there passively and take the abuse. On the other hand I wouldn’t “stoop down to that level” as you suggested, by, let’s say calling that person names.
You wrote: “there are situations where you can’t walk away”- can you give an example or two of these situations, and what should the person being abused say or do (if anything) in those situations?
anitaMarch 17, 2017 at 8:57 pm #140443
Yes definitely….you could offer him a glass of water to relax him down..and at the same time see if the mistake is yours for what you are being abused admit it and promise for a better performance…You could also smile(in sacarsm) say Thank you n leave….
And if it your boss in the office as many of my clients complain about you cannot handle the situation anymore then love yourself enough to change your job!!
Hope this answers Many of your questions..
Harleen Bajwa.March 18, 2017 at 9:08 am #140475
Dear Harleen Bajwa:
So your suggestion for a person who is being abused, in certain circumstances at least, is to “see if the mistake is yours for what you are being abused, admit it and promise for a better performance”
– I disagree: such response means that the abused is taking responsibility for the abuse. The abuser is responsible for his behavior, not the abused. The response you suggested encourages the abuser to continue to abuse the same person and others.
Thank you for answering my question. I have no more questions.
<b> </b>March 18, 2017 at 10:14 pm #140537
Hey Anita your welcome!!
A question empowers. The purpose of asking a question, is not to get an answer, but to give you an awareness.”