Dear Niklas,

It sounds like you are a genuine and kind person. Not being physically attracted to someone who is ill sounds normal to me. It’s evolution … we mate with the healthy ones. So I guess from an “animal” perspective you should leave her. However, as I see it a human being is more complex. Even though animals show can show kindness and love and patience, they cannot measure up to human beings showing these higher nature qualities. And I am only talking about those sweet souls who shine, not those humans who behave worse than animals. What I am trying to say is that with your higher nature you recognize qualities of her higher nature, so there is a spiritual connection. I believe this is very special. People can recover from illness. With your support she might too. Maybe she is starving for love and nurturing, most people do. These are just some thoughts. I know there are people out there who say you can’t be in a relationship with someone you are not sexually attracted to – but maybe those who say that haven’t recognized the amazing and heroic deeds of friends, couples or even strangers who decided to stick together during the hard times. There is more glue to life than what is physical. It’s love.