Hi Lacienaga,

I am the same way! This is what I do. Warning: the people in your life won’t like it, but when they are no longer in your orbit, new better people will be drawn into your sphere.

If someone attacks or insults you, ask a question or make a blanket statement.

“Is that so?”

“So what.”

“Why would you say something like that?”

“Wow, you must be so embarrassed right now.”

*when they invariably sputter and try to explain* “I’ll take that as an apology and won’t bring this up again.”

*in a group* “We’re sorry you feel that way.”

“Are you OK?” (my favorite and have had best success with)

Soon they (and everyone else) will learn not to mess with you.

Good Luck!

Inky