Dear Lisa:

“To accept that (you are) unlovable” is not going to bring you serenity because it is not true. Truth is the way to serenity, not untruth.

I suggest that your “path to serenity” is to accept the truth: you were unloved, not unlovable.

As to  “why he (a man to love you) doesn’t come along”-

There are different possibilities to why men have not and do not pursue you:

Maybe you discourage them; maybe when they look at you for an eye contact, you look away, and so they figure you are not interested. Maybe you often perceive that they criticize you and you express hostility and withdraw. Maybe you often look so distressed and unavailable that men figure you are not available for a calm, pleasant exchange. There are other possibilities, I am sure.

anita