Hi Cruzzie,

I hope that today you are finally getting the answers you deserve and through those answers you are well on the way to the loving, happier life you deserve. I am not sure what the motivations are for someone to hurt another. I don’t think it is one thing either, I’m sure it is a multitude of reasons. Regardless, hurting someone seems to come out of nowhere when we least expect it, and, we just don’t need it. I am not sure if you read a previous response I had for you in a previous post, but look at that again. If not, remind me and I shall post it again for you. You really don’t need to “identify what is causing my sadness so I can let it go” because you already have-you are a loving soul that got hurt. Period. The reason(s) for that that having happened can only come from the person who hurt you. There have been some moments that I have been hurt and wanted to know from the person, why. Then I realized why would I want to ask someone who hurt me, why they did that, only to hear the answer justified by the conjunction,”because.” It took awhile for me to understand that when my ex(es) hurt me in such a way that it seemed as having been done so without a conscience, I was actually walking through a door that eventually would lead me to being with someone who genuinely cared and loved me. At first it was hard from to see what it was that I was moving toward after walking through that door because the hurt clouded my vision of where I wanted to go. So when I realized that where I wanted to go became more clear, because I let go, the present state I was in became more clear and exciting and that my journey was clear because it was not clouded with “what could have been.” I actually thanked my exes for letting me go because I was able to make myself available to discover new things and allow some amazing people in my life. I could move forward with a never again mentality. Some hurts did happen but to a much lesser degree because I was aware, I had knowledge. I think that people who hurt another with whom they are involved with do so out of many reasons, self-centeredness, ego, inconsideration, whatever. What happens when you step on a piece of glass? You become aware of two choices: (1) leave it in and let your foot get infected, or, (2) remove it and allow the healing process to begin. Just because you are still hurt does not mean you are chained to “what was.”  “Everywhere I turn and look, there is a reminder from the universe that she is there…” is also a reminder that you no longer are available to her, but are available to be loved. You most certainly deserve love.

Pearce

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