Hi Sophie,

Don’t be quick too overanalyze this, or think that because you leave him notes and he doesn’t do the same, does not mean he does not love you. Men and women have different ways of commicating their love. Women are more of the “nurturing type” where they want in depth heart to heart conversations. They want flowers and chocolates and love letters, etc. Men on the other hand show their love in different ways. Maybe, it’s helping with the household chores, bringing you cold medicine when you are sick with the flu. Filling your car with gas, fixing your car, telling you they love you, complimenting tou, holding the door open for you, and other ttokens of affection we take for granted.

There is a great book called “The 5 Love Languages” a best selling book by Dr. Gary Chapman. I read it, every time I enter a new relationship. Men do things that are special to make women feel loved, and Women do things special in a different way to make men feel loved. Too often, couples give up on each other if their ways of showing love are not “exactly the same.

Some women or men would rather have “words of affirmation, hearing the words “I love you” are important. Insults can leave you shattered and not easily forgotten.

Others like “quality time”. Being there for this type of person is critical, it makes the significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving gifts: Don’t mistake this love language for materialism. The receiver of the gift thrives on love, thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. A missed birthday, anniversary, would be disastrous, so would be the the absense of everyday gestures.

Acts of service: Can Vacuuming the floors be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything someone does to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on “acts of service” person will speak volumes. The words she or he might want to hear is “let me do that for you”. Laziness, broken commitments tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical touch: This language isn’t all about the bedroom. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, thoughtful touches on the arms, face, shoulder, can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care and love. Physical presence is crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Another great book I recommend on the different ways men and women communicate, is the book “Women are from Venus, men are from Mars. I hope this gives a little insight. Keep us posted.

Hi Sophie,

I am very sure, you have nothing to worry about. He may be going about his day, but he is still including and seeing you. I think he is very independent, and wants an independent woman. Just because he is going about his day, does not mean he is not thinking about you. He may just be very busy and can’t get around to texting most of the day due to responsibilities. Show him your independent side. Have some interests outside of him. This will make you appear more interesting and a mystery to him.

Try some volunteer work, maybe at a local animal sanctuary/shelter, a soup kitchen, volunteer to walk someone’s dog, take some hobbies, join your local YMCA, hang out with your friends more. Don’t make him your world or the center of your life, because this is the quickest way to scare men off. Try to not show him insecurities and that you are perfectly fine, thank you very much (lol) without him. Don’t tell him “you need him” don’t plead for his time or attention. After doing this, see if there is a change of his behaviour about you. He may start showing more interest in your life, now that you are not so “available” and “accessible” to him. Make him work for you. Be a mystery.

If all this does not work, and he is not giving you the love, attention and love you deserve, it may be time to rethink this relationship and find someone who does. Keep us posted.