Hi Anita, I wanted to add that i felt that you had had a similar experience with your mom and that there was something in this that resonated with you. I appreciate that you can see that side to it because for me….if i complain,..i feel such guilt, because that is the conditioning of such parents.

I STILL feel that really i am the bad person and i do know why…my dad. He had a forceful controlling mother and has replaced her with a forceful wife. He makes me feel bad if i complain to my mother…because he would feel bad. Its a sickness inherited. The abuse continues because he is not brave enough…and my boyfriends were also not brave enough…so what do we make of that