Dear Tatjama,

I am writing to you since I find myself in kinda the same situation so maybe sharing the same fears or worries could help. “But I’m wondering if I’m suppressing these things or” as you mentioned you fear these feelings because you dont want to get hurt again. It is very normal to have these ideas from the perspective of fear and insecurity. It also very understandable to value other things at the moment, for example to focus on work, studies, friendships ecc and not necessarily on  some romantic potential. I find myself not very sexual at the moment and that’s because I value other romantic things way higher that sex.

Besides, I know that better said that done, but as everyone says or writes, it is highly important to first love ourselves. Personally, I dont know well how to do that but maybe someone with such experience can lead you through and you shift the focus to yourself. Especially after a break up that follows much emotional suffering, people usually need time to recover and realize the most important person in their life is THEMSELVES. I guess this means that you have to take care of yourself, not suffer from past negative thinking and offer yourself whatever you need.

I wish I could say more things but I am also learning how to put in practice everything I read to make me feel myself again.

P.S. can you share the link of the first thread as I would like to read more about your story!