Hi Nina,

I’m sorry you are feeling so low and upset. It takes time to trust someone and when they betray that trust it’s horrible.

it reads to me like he still had feelings for his ex and you too and he was basically trying to be two people at once-one with you, and one with his ex. It’s nothing to do with you and all to do with him and unfinished business from his past. I would see it as a lesson that you can love someone so deeply and can trust someone, that’s a gift in itself, but try not to dwell too much on the good times and try instead to think about the relationship rationally. Would your soul mate do this to you? If the answer is no, then see it as two people coming together to learn certain lessons and to try and look forward. Very much easier said than done though.

in terms of a letter, that might be a good idea. I did it just to say my side honestly, but don’t think too much about getting him back, just see it as closeure for you.

the best thing is to hang out with friends, get your nails done, watch a good series, read a new book, get your hair done etc- just little things to boost you up a little as it takes time to get over someone.