Hey ,

I am kind of in a messed up relationship with an introvert guy(say Jason). So , I met him 1.5 years back. That time i was in a relationship , but as opposites attract , i felt that connection with him and he felt the same for me. But we didnt proceed until , due to family reasons , me and my den bf broke up. Soon ,  i shifted in the same city where Jason stayed. We developed an instant connection and all things were good. Though Jason had also cited family issues , which may cause some problems in long term relationship , he was happy to have me in his life and wanted to proceed wd me . All of a sudden my ex came back in my life and wanted to continue things with me stating that family issues have been resolved . Messed up and tormented between  a guy i met 6 months back and a guy i was in a relationship from 3years , i went into a series of yes and no , and hurting both of them .

Eventually , i decided not to proceed with my ex , but by then Jason had pulled back . Jason became neutral ( atleast he showed). I tried hard to patiently deal with the situation. I could feel the warmth and love , that was earlier , was missing now. I expressed my interest in having a serious relationship and he pulled back further saying that he does not have any feelings for me then. Then started a cycle of either of us texting each other, meeting each other , physical intimacy , fighting and den not talking for months. This has been going on from the past 9 months and I am totally tired now. So , we would not talk for like a month , someone of us , would text each other , we would chat normally , meet , get physically involved , then I would discuss  for emotional security , den a fight and den again a period of a month’s silence.

Lately , i have been reading about introverts behavior towards heart break and the way dey invest their time in some people and generally pull back after physical intimacy. The point is , i feel he likes me , but as he feels that he is getting too close to me , he will stop any contact with me . how to interpret this behavior . Does he pings me when he has physical needs( which i dnt feel is the truth, but dont want to rule out any option ) , or is he scared of getting close to  me again. His behavior is driving me nuts. what should i do ? he just avoids any emotional discussion. doesnt message me for days . But , my heart is craving to meet the same person whom i met earlier. its not ready to let go . what should i do ? can anyone bring me to the nearest possible understanding of his beahvior.