Sarah,

I would look at your pattern of driving men away.  What is the common thing about that?  Is it the type of men that you attract and are attracted to?  Is there something each has said for the reason why it was not working for them?  Each relationship is a learning opportunity to know more about yourself.

Have you read the Five Languages of Love?  Google that.  It seems that you need Quality Time as the primary language.  Plus you might want to check into Attachment Styles (anxious, avoidant, secure). https://www.psychologytoday.com/tests/relationships/relationship-attachment-style-test

My guess is that you are an Anxious attachment person.

These things are good to know when you are in relationship, knowing why you react and feel the way you do and how to communicate with your partner.

Going back to your now defunct relationship, communicating how much and what kind of communication you desired would have been useful.

There are always going to be differences and different needs/wants between partners, the key is to be able to communicate and understand each other so that you each can deal with the differences and help with each other’s needs/wants.

Make sense?

Mark