Thank you all so much for your insightful advice. I have had some more discussions with him: “Yes I do have feelings for you and I do care about you absolutely, but I’m not interested in working on, or being focus on a relationship at this point in my life I could take or leave that part , I am human I have developed feelings for you I’m not heartless”

Regarding his wife: “And also you know how I feel about my marriage, you’re very clear on that I haven’t heard anything from you that’s also something you need to take into consideration moving forward for yourself. At some point I will not do that I know I have to move forward whatever that may be I will never stop loving her I don’t know if I will ever stop being in love with her but I will stop fighting for her”

This is what I expected to hear and as Michelle remarked: The writing is on the wall.

Thank you all! You are remarkable.