Dear Cat:

You are welcome and thank you for your kind words. I hope it goes well with the bank and that you will be out of that house as soon as possible.

Regarding the interaction you described: without reading your comments in parenthesis, just reading what was said:

You: “Hey, is it okay to put my gig poster…

Woman on till: “Yes, sure…

You: “Oh I didn’t know that, as last time the woman let me put it up for free”

Woman on till: “Yes, it’s 50p…”

You: Oh really? Most of the cafes let me put it up for free”

* At this point, although you didn’t intend to argue, it reads like you are. Again, your intent aside, it reads reasonable for me that the someone hearing the exchange is assuming you started an argument, not a loud one, not in a tone of aggression (I figure that because you didn’t intend to argue), but an argument nonetheless.

The girl: “It’s just 50p, it’s a tiny little charity!” and that’s where the aggression starts.

I would say (again, I understand the lack of intent on your part) that you started an argument non aggressively and the girl reacted aggressively.

I like your determination to “always stand up for (yourself)”.

There is more to your post I want to reply to, including a question you asked me, but need to read from you first what you think/ feel about my response so far, here?

anita