Dear Cali Chica:

* Regarding “it might seem easy to just drop off your dog… it won’t be the same with a child. If patents are close by they can help”- my input: I think it will harm your future child or children to spend alone time with your parents, my goodness, what a bad idea to leave children with them.

You wrote: “My parents are so beyond insane, and unable to understand anything…”- oh, they do understand something. They understand power and they know they have power over you. They consistently exercise that power over you successfully and intend to continue to do so.

You wrote: “it (the list I suggested) will make them more angry and combative, and increase stress”- only if you stay for that combat. My suggestion excluded combat: no combat at all.

You wrote: “My parents are so beyond insane, and unable to understand anything… Unfortunately, it will have to be me blowing off punches- but also somehow being able to have a firm stance as well”-

My question: is it a sane person who plans on being in the company of insane people who throw punches, planning on being there for those punches?

And what good is your understanding so well expressed in the last few posts, if your choice is to still avail yourself and your family of choice to abuse and harm.

anita