Hi there Anita,

To be honest i am happy with any little information/advice you give to me, im sure at some point i will be writing another post, but since you have been with me from day one i honestly am fine with your advice and help.

Well i think i mentioned it before, he was adopted along with his little sister. He has a lot of issues as he remember tid bits of his biological mother and remembers the foster homes and the neglect and mistreatment he had to go through. He was then adopted and unfortunately even at an early age was expelled for misbehaviour at a couple of schools, so his parents decided to move to their country of origin ( I dont want to disclose this). He got much better and became a straight A student and responsible ( i think) but his parents were very strict to him and his sister,a little bit too strict so they basically didnt have much freedom, his mother told me that she regrets being this strict with them but this is how she felt she could raise them. His parents do try as much as they can with him, but there is only so much you can take when your child is shutting you out constantly. I dont think it harms him, as every time he speaks to them he is so happy, he thanks me for giving him that little push to call them. I believe in family, and i also believe everyone needs to make that effort, unless of course those certain people are nasty and only bring negativity in your life. He needs to make that effort, his parents are old and i just feel that he could make that little bit of extra effort to speak with them as i know how much he loves them. He is the same with his son, his friends, his family ( Aunties, cousins, sister) he just doesnt connect with anyone.

I have never thought about it that way, it seems he shows kindness to things he knows that cant hurt him personally, somewhat like his job, yes it can hurt him physically but its away from reality, its away from people that could potentially hurt him.

Definitely agree with you there, i need to be assertive but keeping the do no harm in mind. He also has to learn this, and i will tell him this too. It truly is amazing, that you read every line and you bring things to light that i would never have thought of 🙂

Blessings