Friends with Benefits… Its hard to day how sex might impact a relationship but I don’t think one can break it down into a male or female thing.

Just a few years ago such a question would assume that what men and woman wanted from sex was determined by their gender.  Men could have (and must want) as much sex as they could get without feeling where a woman could/should only have sex from a place of Love and commitment…

Today the attitude towards sex is changing and I wonder if we might not be moving towards a time when sex and committed Love relationship are connected at all…  unless the two people chose for it to be.

I remember a presentation given by a young woman about swinging. How she and her husband would stare into each others’ eyes as they were ‘being serviced’ by others. The other people involved were objects no different then a sex toy… which she implied was the only way such an arrangement works.

With regards to FWB I would assume that the ground rules were the same. Two people using each other for sexual gratification. That if either involved wanted something deeper the FWB relationship ends, and I guess if such a desire to take the relationship to a different level is one sided that the friendship ends.