Thank you Anita and everyone for your responses. I have an update. So the week after he came over, he kept in touch. So again the next Saturday night, (naively) thinking there was a chance to get things back to normal, I had him come over. Things were great again and I felt very close to him. Then as he walked out the door he turned to me and told me “not to read to much into this” and that “nothing has changed” but “we’re still friends”. I asked him to leave. It felt like someone had punched me in the gut.  He apologized for saying that several times. He never really said he didn’t mean it, just that he shouldn’t have said it. It was heartless and demeaning to say that to someone you have spent two years with and was close to…at least what I thought.

So the next Monday and Tuesday nights he ends up at the gym location I go to  He usually goes to another location.  He exercised with me, showed me how to use many weighthts, staying after with me for an hour to help train me   The next night he showed up again  same thing  he left after to get some dinner alone and did not ask me to join him though  then I did not hear from him for two days  On the third morning I texted him and told him that the last two times we were together he made it clear it was purely physical. So the next time he is planning on texting me it will be to have an adult mature relationship with me or let me go completely meaning no contact.  We texted a little that night then said goodnight and that was it  i have not heard from him since  I am terribly upset  but I feel like I did he right thing.  He didn’t want to be with me right now, so why should I continue to sleep with him and get my hopes up each time he reached out to say hello.  I hope it gets better.  It is just very hard to say goodbye to someone like this.