Dear E.Stout:

I think that the reason you hate the golf course in the country is because you had bad experiences there, many times, repeatedly, over the years. Reads to me that the bad experiences were in the relationships between you and your parents/ family members. In the relationship/s, you were not allowed to be yourself, your true self. So you lied on that huge golf course, I imagine, not having the little space you needed to be you.

If any of your friends living in a house in town is not allowed to be themselves, if they are rejected, they would probably hate where they live and wish they lived elsewhere. They too will feel uncomfortable and awkward living in town.

I don’t think it is about the place. It is about the relationships happening in the place that make the place pleasant or unpleasant.

Maybe other family members, if they are comfortable in the golf course, maybe no one is raining on their parade, that is, no one is rejecting them for being who they are.

What do you think? If you would like and think of it as relevant, please share about those relationships in the context of your family of origin.

anita