Dear Cali Chica:

My insight reading your recent post is that you are indeed in the process of healing, persisting in it. As before and more than before, I am impressed. I see this only in your thread, past and present, on this website, only in your thread. You are indeed engaged in the real work of healing.

Reality is in every sentence you write, reality, no convenient thinking, no wishful thinking as you look at the past, the present and the future.

It is exhausting, yes, it is. The waste of what could have been but wasn’t, a joyful wedding is just one such thing, one of so many, is painful to acknowledge and endure. Yet, it is reality.

Our mental health is in our ability to think in according to what is true to reality. Any and every convenient, wishful thinking, any rationalizing away of reality carries a price, more sickness, more dysfunction.

When you see others engaging such thinking and they look happy, that is a temporary kind of happiness, the price is there to be paid, later, when you are not seeing them.

Stay with what is real. You are doing so well. I am so very impressed by you. You are, no doubt in my mind, amazing.

anita