Jade,

Good for you for having such an awareness.  Logically you know that feeling guilty will do those less fortunate any good or helps you in any way.

You say you already volunteer and find ways to help others which is great.

My only suggestions are:

1. Write down how you are helping others with your volunteer work and other activities (e.g. number of hours volunteered, number of people you have helped, etc.).   This way you can see quantitatively on what you are doing to help.

1a. Try out other activities that directly help others in a substantive way, e.g. do things that you need to interact with the person(s) you are helping.

2. You say you feel guilty about your aunt.  How about sending her some money (with a note of course)?

3. You may want to examine what underlies this sense of guilt, this “not deserving” feeling.  What about your upbringing instilled that in you?

4. And lastly, this may sound harsh, just suck it up.  Continue to work on helping others in various ways and acknowledge that you will have your guilt.

Mark