Hi,

I posted here awhile ago regarding my boyfriend who suddenly broke up with me saying his feelings changed, he wasn’t happy because of the relationship, etc. That was a little less than three months ago. I suspected he was depressed when it first happened but since then, it has become very clear that he is. We have a mutual friend who I have been talking to. My ex shared with him that he feels nothing, and that he was thinking about hurting himself but he is “fine now”. He also has been hanging out with a guy he used to hate, drinking quite often, is on tinder, and was hooking up with girls about a week after we broke up. All of which the him I knew, which i think is the real him, would NEVER do or even want to do. He also hasn’t been talking to our mutual friend much at all. I guess I am wondering what to do. Hearing all of this was obviously really hurtful, and I know we aren’t together anymore, so its not my responsibility. But I also don’t want to just leave him in this state of mind, especially if he thinks this is normal, which i guess he does. I don’t know if reaching out to just remind him that I”m here if he wants to talk, would be a good thing, or if I am just better off giving up. I really do still love him, the real him, and don’t want to see him like this, but, if he thinks everything is fine, I don’t know if i could make a difference, my hope would be that i could.  Thanks in advance for any replies!