Dear Anita,

Thank you so much for this response. It is the most or one of the most Incredible and helpful things I’ve read in years, or perhaps ever. A true and direct explanation to what I am personally feeling.

I will be sure to come to this often when I wonder and forget this sense of no relief and constant fear.

You wrote: The child is motivated to run, like an animal  in nature with a predator approaching, but there is nowhere to run to and the hope for safety is still with the mother. So a child stays, afraid. The fear does not relax but a running away to safety has not taken place. Unlike in nature where the predator, after running away, is no longer in sight, the mother-predator is still in sight, day after day, year after year. And so, the fear stays; it is anxiety

This is it. Wow. So by nature of not truly running away and in fact staying with your predator, the child also develops and inability to trust his own feelings right? Because when an innate and I tuitive feeling is to run from fear, and that does not happen. It must cause confusion. It must make it hard for the child to see what innate “feings” he should trust then. Give that he never found relief and is still in the continuous blur of anxiety. Perhaps that’s also why self trust never develops. How can one trust when he was not able to follow his most basic instinct?