Dear noname:

I have been referring to your mother in that mental unit because it is the parent who is the primary recipient of the child’s empathy who is in that mental unit, as I understand it and refer to it. Hasn’t she been the primary recipient of your empathy when you were a child?

“what difference would it make if I think I’m a good person yet still isolated and alone?” – for one thing, if you believe that you are a good person, you will not believe any longer that you are likely to harm another, so that fear will  be gone, you will not need to protect another from your assumed badness. Another thing, believing you are a good person will resolve your anger. The difference is that you will isolate yourself from people who are bad for you, and make yourself available to someone who will be good for you.

anita