Dear Nirvair:

Good to read from you and hope to be reading more from you.

Regarding your relationship, too bad that she blames you instead of looking at herself, evaluating what it is that she is doing wrong, what it is she can do better. Lots of relationships exist around this agreement between the parties: one is the Guilty One and the other is The Victim whose job is to see to it that this dynamic is maintained through years and even decades.

It is unbelievable, yet true, the massive mismanagement and waste of resources, corruption, aggression, cruelty happening anywhere and everywhere in our human society. People watching the news tend to think: it happens over there, far away, there, not here! But it happens everywhere. We are all captives, really, of selfish, short sighted, and/ or corrupted politicians and policy makers and other people with money and power affecting our lives badly.

It is mind boggling and yet, it is reality. So what do we do, people like us who are not  politicians, who do not have money, or much of it, what do we do?

My answer is: live the best life that is available to me. Within this web of human waste and corruption and pockets of goodness, of honesty and kindness, there is a life for me. I remain aware of it all and dwell best I can in those oases of goodness.

anita