Dear Mia,

The place that you described – “being stuck in one place” “endless boredom with no purpose” “endless loop of disappointment ” “how little i have achieve and how much more i could have achieved” “it all falls apart when things go wrong or when i see how great other people are managing their lives”. That is the place I used to reside not very long ago. I visit this place time and again but of late I don’t stay there too long.

How do I cope with it? what are the things that helped me cope with it?

Many things played a part in that. It was not a dramatic process rather very slow but steady progress. A feeling of gratitude played a major role. Reminding what I was thankful for on a repeated basis helped. An intense desire to move out of that kind of place served as a strong motivator. Working with therapies such as cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy gave a major push to the process. Mindfulness and meditation practices are what I would call the foundation for this process of coping with these patterns.

It is still a work in progress but definitely worth it to come out of that kind of thinking.

Hope any of the above also helps you in your journey.

Regards