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InkyHi RoseQ,
If I had to work 12 hour days, I would not be myself at all! What I would do is consider my father as a “Provider Dad” during the days that he works. Meaning, don’t bug him! I know that sounds horrible, but some people don’t have the capacity to interact with others after a grueling day.
It sounds like he is also locked in this Traditional Role. Maybe have a family meeting. Does he have to work 12 hour days? Can you guys move to a smaller house? Can you and the rest of the family chip in? Can he find a job that’s only 8 hours? Can he work 12 hours but only on certain days?
What I would do is interact with him more on the Holidays! “Fun Dad” might bond with you during those times. Who knows?
Be careful not to blame everything on your parents. Regarding the boys, sometimes boys are just clueless.
Best,
Inky
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