Ladybug,

You say you have clingy behavior, that you take up all his time and tend to be annoyed and demanding. You said that you don’t have separate lives.

Now you two are learning to invest more in your own selves. He says that he does not know how to live independently.
You are asking for advice how to maintain a healthy relationship and how you can be healthy for yourself and for him.

I agree with Anita, that if you want to be emotionally healthy and have a healthy relationship then go work with a therapist.

I don’t really see much in your posts on you and your behavior. You have written mainly about him.  What do you think that you need to change, to do in order to be healthier?

Mark